Patient people have a greater sense of gratitude. Similarly, patience helps you focus on what is good and to be thankful. In fact, patience and gratitude reinforce each other.
The more grateful you are for what is good helps you to become more patient, and patience allows you to slow down and notice what is going well. Patience transforms relationships.
It can help you avoid becoming irritated, defensive and saying hurtful things. It can slow you down and prevent hasty, selfish decisions. Patience helps in developing the crucial relationship skill of empathy — the ability to understand life from the perspective of another. When you are impatient, you are focused inward, on you, on what you are not receiving. On the other hand, when you are patient, you are focused outward, able to think and choose care and compassion for the other person.
Patience is a skill that can be learned and practiced, and it is a result of choosing to emphasize thinking over feeling. Here are some suggestions for developing the skill of patience I am glad that you were patient enough to wait for them. Most of us live life at a fast pace, which makes patience difficult.
Very practically, you can pay attention to your breathing. Slow your breathing, breathe deeply, fully expanding your lungs. Physiologically, deep breathing, relaxation and exercise all serve to dissipate adrenaline the stress chemical and release endorphins the calming chemical. Progressive Muscle Relaxation is a proven stress reliever. It is a minute exercise where a person progressively relaxes all areas of the body while breathing slowly and deeply.
Scripts for muscle relaxation are readily available on the Internet. Creating a little time for these stress management techniques will reduce stress, and will pay dividends in calmness and patience. Once you exercise a time-out, you are able to bring your most calm, productive and patient self to the problem. Using thoughts to manage emotions is key to developing patience. You can begin this process by focusing on the big picture. Ask yourself what is true about you, the others involved or the situation as a whole, and reflect on those truths.
Another aspect of thinking is to avoid thinking in dichotomies, as in things are good or bad, right or wrong. Most situations in life are in the gray areas, a combination of positives and negatives, and for most problems or situations in life, there is more than one way to solve it. Choosing to empathize with others is an important thinking skill you must choose.
In relationships with others, patience becomes a form of kindness. Indeed, research suggests that patient people tend to be more cooperative, more empathic, more equitable, and more forgiving. Comer and Leslie E. Sekerka in their study. Evidence of this is found in a study that put participants into groups of four and asked them to contribute money to a common pot, which would be doubled and redistributed. The game gave players a financial incentive to be stingy, yet patient people contributed more to the pot than other players did.
The interpersonally patient people even tended to be less lonely, perhaps because making and keeping friends—with all their quirks and slip-ups—generally requires a healthy dose of patience.
On a group level, patience may be one of the foundations of civil society. Patient people are more likely to vote , an activity that entails waiting months or years for our elected official to implement better policies.
Evolutionary theorists believe that patience helped our ancestors survive because it allowed them to do good deeds and wait for others to reciprocate, instead of demanding immediate compensation which would more likely lead to conflict than cooperation. In that same vein, patience is linked to trust in the people and the institutions around us. Read about the benefits of delaying gratification. Is patience one of your signature strengths? Take the VIA survey.
Watch a video on patience embedded below by Gratitude Revealed , a journey into the science of gratitude and emotional wellness. The road to achievement is a long one, and those without patience—who want to see results immediately—may not be willing to walk it. In her study, Schnitker also examined whether patience helps students get things done. In five surveys they completed over the course of a semester, patient people of all stripes reported exerting more effort toward their goals than other people did.
The patient response is staying calm, listening to one another, and talking out the problem and a solution that works for both sides.
The impatient response can either be getting angry, yelling, or maybe taking an action recklessly without thinking it out. But impatience might also show up as the partners ignoring one another or disengaging from the relationship, she says. And being on the anger, frustration, anxiety and inability-to-control-your-actions end of the spectrum can have deleterious effects, too. Research dating back to the 80s has connected impatience with irritability and higher risk of heart problems.
More recent research has linked impatience with the inability to handle stressors and practice self-control. And a study published in the "Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America" found that impatient behavior was actually linked to people having shorter telomeres , a part of our DNA that influences how our cells age, suggesting that being more impatient might therefore speed up the aging process in our bodies as opposed to how our cells would otherwise age if we act more patiently.
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